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  • If The March for Life was Painful

    The March for Life was last Friday and, if I didn’t have to work, I would have been there.  Washington D.C. is only 45 minutes from my home and it’s an easy trip. I’ve always wanted to attend, but haven’t made it there for a variety of reasons. Maybe next year.

    Last week I wrote a post in response to the women’s march that occurred on the Saturday after the inauguration. I was heartbroken after watching it unfold both on TV and on social media. I know that many of us were troubled by the message that day and I wanted to write a simple piece on our true, God-given, feminine identity.

    As for The March for Life, you might be surprised to know that I felt heartache over it as well. My feelings had nothing to do with the peaceful and prayerful march, the wonderful speakers or the message of the day. All of it was uplifting and inspiring. God truly is answering our prayers for the unborn.

    Image Credit: Terri Cunningham

    Image Credit: Terri Cunningham

    Even so, as I watched the march unfold, my heart was broken for many of you – my dear sisters who have had an abortion.

    From Sanctity of Life Sunday to the march on Friday, we were reminded that since Rowe vs. Wade became law, 58 million babies have been aborted in this country.

    What if one of those dear souls was your child?

    I say this because, even though the cause is important and we as Christians must stand to speak out for the unborn, it doesn’t mean that the message wasn’t painful for you.

    All of this, though well intended, can pick open a wound.

    And so I prayed and asked God to remind you of His great love for you. And even though I have not had an unexpected pregnancy, we really are no different from one another.

    In the time and place I grew up in, coming home pregnant was completely unacceptable. Fear was put into us, that we would shame our entire family. We were told we would be forever ruined.

    I remember one girl in my high school who was quietly sent away to have her baby and give it up for adoption – but every other girl I knew in high school and in college who became pregnant, chose to have an abortion.   

    They almost universally made this decision based on the belief that they could not go home and tell their parents such news. They believed it was better to just make it go away.

    And make it go away, they did. The problem is, it never really goes away.

    When I look back on my younger years I am convinced that, even though I was a Christian and understood abortion is a sin, I feared shame, being ‘ruined’ and disappointing my family more than I feared God.

    My faith was simply not strong enough to trust Him with a situation like an out of wedlock pregnancy.

    Although I will never know for sure, it is quite possible, had I been in the same frightening place, I would have chosen abortion too – even though I was a Christian and even though I knew it was a sin.

    In those years of my life, I didn’t have the faith and trust that I have now.  The truth is, God never asks us to do anything He doesn’t give us the power to do. He would have given it to me, but I didn’t know it then. 

    And so, I can’t pass judgment on any of you who have made the choice to abort her baby. I feel so fiercely protective of your broken hearts that my heart breaks for you, too.

    I am no different from you. I just never had to make that choice.

    The story of my growing up years may be different than yours. Women deal with unplanned pregnancies in different ways and for different reasons.

    But no matter how you came to your decision, know this – if abortion is part of your story, you are not ruined. 

    If you have asked Him for forgiveness, He has forgiven you. He sees you, understands your broken heart, and He will take away your shame.

    My sister, you are not ruined — you are redeemed.

    And today, maybe, just maybe, you need a reminder that your child is in His care and you are too.

    I have heard your prayer and seen your tears; I will heal you. — 2 Kings 20:5

    Many blessings and so much love,


    Monday, January 30, 2017 | 32 Comments
  • The Truth About Your Sweet Feminine Self

    There was a lot of commotion out there this past weekend regarding our role as women in our society and in this world. If we are not careful, we can get ourselves caught up in trying to find our self-worth from someplace outside of God’s Word.

    To be crystal clear: our value, our self-worth and our acceptance will never come from a law, a march or a shifting-sand political platform. They come to us from one place and one place alone – Jesus Christ.

    Remember this: God-given identity is true for all women. Every single soul has value and is an image bearer of the one who created her — whether she knows Him or not.

    In Genesis 1 and 2, God created the heaven, the earth and everything it in it. Each time something was created, He said it was ‘good’ – until He created man. After man’s creation, God decided something wasn’t good.

    The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” — Genesis 2:18

    You have seen this verse before and in some translations the word ‘helpmeet’ is in place of the word ‘helper’. 

    Helpmeet? Helper?

    They sound kind of weak, don’t they? Both words feel like God created us to stand a few steps back with eyes lowered to the floor. No abundant life for us – we simply are here to ‘help’.

    But it isn’t so.

    In the original language, ‘helpmeet’ is translated back to the Hebrew word ‘ezer’ and this word has a very, very different meaning.

    The word ‘ezer’ means, strength, power, and rescue. One commentator translates it as a strong power and lifesaver!

    So, let’s take a look at Genesis 2:18 again and place the real meaning in the text.

    The Lord God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a strong power and rescuer for him.’

    Our sweet Lord created us not as an afterthought, but as the crowning glory of His perfect creation!

    This world was not complete (and neither was man) until our feminine strength, fueled by God’s power, arrived on the scene! He has given us large hearts to love and carry life – by our very nature, we are life givers, lifesavers and rescuers.

    And anything that goes against how God created us, goes against Him.

    Now girls, ever since Eve tangled with sin, our God-given qualities have been distorted.

    Oh my, how they have been twisted and turned and defiled! It’s no wonder so many of us have searched for our identity and value in unsafe places.

    But the truth is, no matter how messed up our value may be in our own eyes or in the eyes of others, it has never ever changed in the eyes and heart of the One who made us.

    We are life-bearers.

    We rescuers and lifesavers.

    We possess God’s strong power expressed through our big feminine hearts.

    We are smart and possess keen intuition & wisdom via the Holy Spirit.

    We are valuable.

    We are servant leaders.

    We have God-given dignity.

    And so does every little girl on this earth and those yet to be born. All are image bearers of God Almighty.


    The Bible is full of women who used the attributes God created them with to influence their world for His glory.

    One such woman was Esther.

    Her name means ‘star’ and it is so appropriate! She used her strong power to be a bright light in a very dark time. Her courage, strength and keen wisdom led her to become the lifesaver of her beloved people.

    There is also Rahab, Mary, Elizabeth, the Samaritan woman and on and on. These women — and many, many more (some named and some unnamed), have left us a legacy as God’s crowning glory.

    Creation wasn’t complete without our feminine strong power!

    As designed, we can illuminate His voice of life, calm, wisdom, kindness, love, empathy, loyalty and of understanding in this lost and hurting world.

    We don’t need anyone out there to affirm our dignity or value. We don’t have to go looking ‘elsewhere’ for it either. It’s ours. We only have to look at God’s perfect creation and listen to the lives of our sisters in the pages of scripture.

    Consider the outcome of their way of life and imitate their faith. — Hebrews 13:7b

    Blessings to you, my girlfriends!


    Monday, January 23, 2017 | 40 Comments
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