The Key To Doing Life Well

Where did all the time go?

As February winds down and March appears on the horizon, I feel as if the months are just racing by. Everyone tells you that, as you grow older, the years go by with lightning speed – and, as far as I’m concerned, that is entirely true. March 22nd, which arrives in just a few weeks, will mark the one year anniversary of my mother’s death. That is incredible to me. So many changes, so many adjustments – and yet, it seems as if she left us only a short time ago.

Seasons change. We take on new roles. We joyfully welcome new souls into our families and we say heartbreaking goodbyes to precious loved ones.

It is how life goes – and it is how we go along with it that makes all the difference.

Changes and adjustments can make us fearful. They’re not all positive, but they are all part of a full and meaningful life.

Resilience is the key to doing life well, and it is found in knowing our identity in Christ.

In Proverbs 31:10-31, we find the infamous ‘virtuous woman’ that Bible study girls love to get stressed out over. The description of her superwoman ‘to do’ list, which apparently she executed very well, can be intimidating. We feel we can never measure up to all of her dazzling attributes.

This portion of Scripture has caused many a women’s Bible study circle to be filled with rolling eyes and a lot of heavy sighs. I speak from experience!

But let’s take a look at her again with fresh — not rolling — eyes, shall we?

When I quit comparing myself to her and view this sister from a different vantage point, I see a woman who lives fully present and alive in the season she is in. My goodness, this is one busy girl! We’ve been there, too – haven’t we?

The role she fills at this time of her life keeps her on her toes, but she is not described as frazzled, worn out, dragging around, or miserable. Even though she is clearly serving many people in her family and community, verse 25 says this:

“She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future.”

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So…putting that head-spinning ‘to do’ list aside, what stands out to me is that she embraced the season she was in and did not fear what the next might bring to her.

Scripture doesn’t tell us about her losses, the people who lived with her, or the circumstances she was living under.  I wonder…

Was she caring for an aging parent?

Did she have a troubled child?

Had she hit a few rough patches in her marriage?

All of the above?

We do not know – but, since she was human, we can assume that any of these or other scenarios could have been part of her story. And yet, she moved through her life and met her challenges with strength and dignity.

God’s Word tells us that our strength comes from the Lord. She was strong in Him.

The word ‘dignity’ in the original Hebrew is the word ‘hadar’. A woman clothed with hadar is a woman in majesty, magnificence, worthiness, honor and beauty.

She is glorious — her life brings glory to the Father.

This is her identity.

She is a child of God and she knows it.

She knows who she is and Whose she is.

I love this because it clearly demonstrates that dignity is not pride. Sometimes we mix the two up, but they are not the same. Pride is self-satisfaction derived from one’s own achievements – but dignity comes from what He has done.

Her identity is the firm foundation she operates from.

She takes care of the things she has been given to do now and then, looking ahead to the next season, she does not fear.

This means that our virtuous woman doesn’t cling to the season that is ending. Instead, she accepts and even welcomes the new season that is to come.

There will be endings and there will be beginnings, but she stands firm in her identity as a strong, magnificent, glorious and beautiful Child of God.

Dear sister — as you travel through the seasons of your own life, do not fear.

This is your identity too, and it is the key to doing life well.

Love to all,

laura

14 Comments

  1. Wanda on February 23, 2016 at 12:14 pm

    Great reflection Laura! One filled with hope for us:). Thank you!

    • LauraAdmin on February 23, 2016 at 5:01 pm

      Thanks for the support, Wanda! xo

  2. Cyndi on February 23, 2016 at 12:27 pm

    Wow, thank you- I was so blessed by this! It is one that must be printed out and read as the season’s of life change.

    • LauraAdmin on February 23, 2016 at 5:01 pm

      Cyndi — thanks so much. xo

  3. Debbie Dunnigan on February 23, 2016 at 2:25 pm

    Beautiful! Will be sharing this one with our widows at church.Thank you for this blessing today❤

    • LauraAdmin on February 23, 2016 at 5:01 pm

      Thank you Debbie. xo

  4. Jeanne on February 23, 2016 at 5:51 pm

    I’m going to print this out, put it in my wallet, and refer back to it continuously as I approach the upcoming marriage of my oldest son! I won’t fear the change that this new season will bring, I will welcome it with joy!

    • LauraAdmin on February 23, 2016 at 8:09 pm

      You have a BIG season of life coming up, Jeanne! Praying for you — I have no doubt you will welcome it with JOY! xo

  5. Rose Sheives on February 23, 2016 at 10:56 pm

    Laura, thanks for the wisdom of this post. I especially loved the differentiation between pride and dignity!

    • LauraAdmin on February 24, 2016 at 2:24 am

      Thanks so much Rose. We miss you at Manorwood! Hope to see you soon. xoxo

  6. Cheryl on February 24, 2016 at 10:19 pm

    Thank you for this message as I face some very real and scary life changes. It really hit home

    • LauraAdmin on February 24, 2016 at 11:12 pm

      Cheryl — praying your real and scary leads you to exciting, amazing and a new life! One where you are free to use your gifts even more that you do now! xo

  7. Rashel on February 25, 2016 at 2:19 am

    I think time is going by faster every year! As my children are getting older, I’m learning to enjoy each season because they go so fast. As a mom of four teenagers, I’m trying to treasure the time with them because I know it will be too soon before they all move out.

  8. Diane Przybylek on February 26, 2016 at 9:52 pm

    Laura, Reading this reminds me of Donna. And also of you! I know you have suffered two great losses this year. Such good real life role models to emulate! Thank you for your encouragement.
    Diane

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