The Truth About Your Sweet Feminine Self

There was a lot of commotion out there this past weekend regarding our role as women in our society and in this world. If we are not careful, we can get ourselves caught up in trying to find our self-worth from someplace outside of God’s Word.

To be crystal clear: our value, our self-worth and our acceptance will never come from a law, a march or a shifting-sand political platform. They come to us from one place and one place alone – Jesus Christ.

Remember this: God-given identity is true for all women. Every single soul has value and is an image bearer of the one who created her — whether she knows Him or not.

In Genesis 1 and 2, God created the heaven, the earth and everything it in it. Each time something was created, He said it was ‘good’ – until He created man. After man’s creation, God decided something wasn’t good.

The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” – Genesis 2:18

You have seen this verse before and in some translations the word ‘helpmeet’ is in place of the word ‘helper’. 

Helpmeet? Helper?

They sound kind of weak, don’t they? Both words feel like God created us to stand a few steps back with eyes lowered to the floor. No abundant life for us – we simply are here to ‘help’.

But it isn’t so.

In the original language, ‘helpmeet’ is translated back to the Hebrew word ‘ezer’ and this word has a very, very different meaning.

The word ‘ezer’ means, strength, power, and rescue. One commentator translates it as a strong power and lifesaver!

So, let’s take a look at Genesis 2:18 again and place the real meaning in the text.

The Lord God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a strong power and rescuer for him.’

Our sweet Lord created us not as an afterthought, but as the crowning glory of His perfect creation!

This world was not complete – and neither was man – until our feminine strength, fueled by God’s power, arrived on the scene! He has given us large hearts to love and carry life – by our very nature, we are life givers, lifesavers and rescuers.

And anything that goes against how God created us, goes against Him.

Now girls, ever since Eve tangled with sin, our God-given qualities have been distorted. Oh my, how they have been twisted and turned and defiled!

It’s no wonder so many of us have searched for our identity and value in unsafe places.

But the truth is, no matter how messed up our value may be in our own eyes or in the eyes of others, it has never ever changed in the eyes and heart of the One who made us.

We are life-bearers.

We rescuers and lifesavers.

We possess God’s strong power expressed through our big feminine hearts.

We are smart and possess keen intuition & wisdom via the Holy Spirit.

We are valuable.

We are servant leaders.

We have God-given dignity.

And so does every little girl on this earth and those yet to be born.

All are image bearers of God Almighty.


The Bible is full of women who used the attributes God created them with to influence their world for His glory.

One such woman was Esther.

Her name means ‘star’ and it is so appropriate! She used her strong power to be a bright light in a very dark time. Her courage, strength and keen wisdom led her to become the lifesaver of her beloved people.

There is also Rahab, Mary, Elizabeth, the Samaritan woman and on and on. These women — and many, many more (some named and some unnamed), have left us a legacy as God’s crowning glory.

Creation wasn’t complete without our feminine strong power!

As designed, we can illuminate His voice of life, calm, wisdom, kindness, love, empathy, loyalty and of understanding in this lost and hurting world.

We don’t need anyone out there to affirm our dignity or value. We don’t have to go looking ‘elsewhere’ for it either. It’s ours. We only have to look at God’s perfect creation and listen to the lives of our sisters in the pages of scripture.

Consider the outcome of their way of life and imitate their faith. – Hebrews 13:7b

Blessings to you, my girlfriends!



  1. Ellen Hammond on January 23, 2017 at 7:43 am

    This weekend’s commotion weighed heavy on my heart. This was a wonderful reminder of who we are and should be as women of God.Thank you friend.

    • LauraAdmin on January 23, 2017 at 9:34 am

      Heavy on mine too. Thanks for the encouragement,Ellen. xo

  2. cyndi on January 23, 2017 at 8:35 am

    that will preach! Thanks Laura

    • LauraAdmin on January 23, 2017 at 9:33 am

      Lol -thanks Cyndi. 🙂

  3. Laura Hilley on January 23, 2017 at 12:13 pm

    Beautiful!!! Thanks for that!

    • LauraAdmin on January 23, 2017 at 4:06 pm

      So glad it resonated with you, Laura. Thanks for stopping by! xo

  4. ~Karrilee~ on January 23, 2017 at 4:14 pm

    This is beautiful, powerful Truth right here!

    • LauraAdmin on January 23, 2017 at 4:23 pm

      Thank you, Karrilee. I appreciate your kind words and encouragement! xo

  5. Ruth on January 23, 2017 at 5:22 pm

    I love the thought that our value never changes in the eyes of our Creator! People can be so finicky, but not God! He never changes, nor do His truth and love and power!

    • LauraAdmin on January 23, 2017 at 5:45 pm

      Thank you, Ruth. xo

  6. Dawn Nelson on January 23, 2017 at 6:06 pm

    Thank you for reminding me we are truly loved and treasured!

    • LauraAdmin on January 23, 2017 at 6:34 pm

      We truly are, Dawn! Thanks for reading and stopping by. xo

  7. Toni C on January 23, 2017 at 11:35 pm

    Thanks for this wonderful insight and encouragement. Visiting from the Dream Together link up and thoroughly enjoyed the truths shared in your post!

    • LauraAdmin on January 24, 2017 at 6:27 am

      Toni – thank you so much for the encouragement! xo

  8. Liz on January 24, 2017 at 6:36 am

    I love how you drilled down into what helper means! You’re a #WORDNerd, indeed! Praying all women would come the the freeing knowledge of their true with in God’s eyes. Blessings!

    • LauraAdmin on January 24, 2017 at 6:43 am

      Liz – hahaha! Yes, I am a #WORDNerd! Busted! Thanks for stopping by at this early hour!Many Blessings! xo

  9. Barbie on January 25, 2017 at 1:01 am

    Thank you for sharing this beautiful truth at the #glimpses community today

    • LauraAdmin on January 25, 2017 at 8:52 am

      Thank you Barbie. xo

  10. Brenda on January 25, 2017 at 8:27 am

    What a beautiful post. It’s sad to see the emptiness that so many are trying to fill with “rights.” — Thanks for sharing, Laura. I don’t believe we’ve crossed paths before. Nice to meet you! ((grace upon grace))

    • LauraAdmin on January 25, 2017 at 8:54 am

      Nice to meet you too, Brenda. I agree– the Christian faith is counter culture. We give up our rights to be His and we are given a new and secure identity — one of value and acceptance that nothing in this world can offer. xo

  11. Edith Ohaja on January 25, 2017 at 9:15 am

    This is insightful and so timely. We are not less than we should be except we are listening to the wrong voices. God’s way is best and we are precious. Trashing ourselves by behaving unseemly in the name of marches will only degrade the participants further, even in the eyes of the world they think are applauding them now.

    • LauraAdmin on January 25, 2017 at 1:02 pm

      Edith- Great insights. Thank you so much. xo

  12. Jill on January 25, 2017 at 1:49 pm

    Well said, Laura! We can reach this world by the way we live and honor the God who created us! Thanks!

    • LauraAdmin on January 25, 2017 at 2:07 pm

      Thank you, Jill. 🙂

  13. Becky Hastings on January 25, 2017 at 3:51 pm

    Great reminders in the midst of turbulent times! Remember who we are because of who HE is!

    • LauraAdmin on January 27, 2017 at 7:46 pm

      Thank you Becky. xo

  14. Sarah Donegan on January 25, 2017 at 4:19 pm

    I am created in God’s image, and that is good enough for me! 🙂

    • LauraAdmin on January 27, 2017 at 7:47 pm

      I couldn’t agree more, Sarah. xo

  15. Meg Gemelli on January 26, 2017 at 7:35 am

    These are important, important truths that your sharing this week. Feminine identity clouds every situation we encounter. When it sways like the breeze, we definitely open the door to heartbreak and judgement. Great post Laura!

    • LauraAdmin on January 26, 2017 at 9:31 am

      Thanks Meg! Glad you came by. xo

  16. Alice Walters on January 27, 2017 at 10:51 am

    Thanks, Laura, for saying all the things I tried to teach my daughters, and now my granddaughters. Blessings from your neighbor at Kelly’s

    • LauraAdmin on January 27, 2017 at 7:48 pm

      Blessings to you, Alice. xo

  17. Sherry on January 27, 2017 at 3:01 pm

    The women in that march are truly deceived by Satan. Their spitting and vulgarity was proof enough to what they were owing their cause to. If they only knew how much more they would be loved and cherished by their creator! Thanks for pointing out the biblical references as to where our value truly is in God’s kingdom!

  18. LauraAdmin on January 27, 2017 at 7:49 pm

    Sherry – It truly is a spiritual battle and our best weapons are prayer and God’s grace. Thanks for coming by.xo

  19. Lori Schumaker on January 28, 2017 at 8:14 am

    I could not love this more! You did such an incredible job of describing the identity of a woman from her initial creation. Beautiful! Identity is something I am focusing on this year as I write so this really resounded with my spirit! Can’t wait to share this! Thanks so much for sharing hope alongside me at #MomentsofHope ♥

    • LauraAdmin on January 29, 2017 at 1:39 pm

      Lori- Thanks so much for your thoughtful words and for sharing too. It means a great deal to me when something I’ve written is “share-worthy”. 🙂 I am sure you understand. This is the most “shared” post I’ve written to date and I assume it is because it came on the heels of the women’s march, which troubled so many Christian women. We MUST stay clear on our true identity. So grateful you are focusing on it in 2017. I will be reading! xo

  20. Jessica on January 30, 2017 at 4:20 pm

    Thank you for these encouraging words! 🙂

    • LauraAdmin on January 30, 2017 at 6:48 pm

      Many Blessings, Jessica. xo

  21. Dawn on February 2, 2017 at 4:38 pm

    Women affirming women is such a powerful gift, Laura. We need more and more if it. The Titus 2 ministry is one that is so necessary but sometimes easily missed in our modern congregations. And these women in His Word are such beautiful testimonies of strong, powerful, submissive women who love God and love others through it. Thanks for sharing your heart here and for linking this up at the #GraceMoments Link Up.

    • LauraAdmin on February 3, 2017 at 11:28 am

      Thank you Dawn. I could not agree with you more. Titus 2. Not an option. xo

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